What is Divorce Mediation?
Divorce mediation is about you, and you’re soon to be ex-spouse deciding your divorce and what is best for both of you and your spouse, most importantly, your offsprings. In mediation, you and your partner meet with an unbiased third party, which is called the mediator. With their help, you work through the problems you need to fix, so the two of you can end your marriage as agreeably and cost-effective as feasible. The topics covered include but at not limited to, the following:
1. Distribution of Property (Liabilities/Assets)
2. Parenting Time and Child Custody
3. Maintenance/Child Support
In mediation, with the help of the mediator, the couple works out agreements on the above issues. Sometimes deals come easy; sometimes, they take time and a lot of work. When transactions are hard to grasp, that is when the mediator interrupts. It is the mediator’s task to keep the channels of communication open, brainstorm concepts, reality test the pair, teach compassion, and help the couple in their decision-making manner. Mediators aids to keep the couple focused on the problems at hand, trying not to get them off course. When separating couples, get off track and away from the said issues during mediation, arguing, name-calling, and evil prior thoughts are brought up.
Mediation is confidential and flexible. It provides you and your spouse a way to resolve the conflict between you in a way that aids you in working together as a spouse. This is remarkably important if you have children and must communicate with your ex-spouse after you are divorced. Meditation makes communication between the couple, which can then be used when they must discuss issues about the children. Lack of disclosure may have been one of the main reasons for their divorce. Mediation can help the couple learn to talk again, if only for the benefit of the children, and make their post-divorce connection better than their married connection.
A divorce mediator is unbiased and doesn’t “work” for either party. That means the mediator can not advise both parties. They must remain impartial, no matter what the circumstances.
Though the mediator can do is assist the divorcing pair in forming ideas that can ultimately lead to accommodations that will stand the test of time. That open and free interchange of information frees up both spouses to settle with one another with confidence. Because both spouses are operating with the same base of knowledge, it usually takes not much time to negotiate a decision that gives sense to both spouses.
Mediation is optional. It remains only for so long as all three of you – you, your spouse, and the mediator — want it to. Negotiations can be done weekly, every two weeks, monthly, or however often the couple needs them to be. This is their mediation, and they determine everything in the manner.
What are the costs? And How much time does divorce mediation take?
The time of mediation depends on what problems have been agreed to before arbitration and those problems that need to be discussed during negotiation. Also, the number of time spent in mediation is conditional upon you and your spouse’s readiness to come to decisions that are equitable for both of you and your desire to do what is in the best concerns of your children. The time spent in mediation can be lessened if you and your spouse can come to agreements before negotiation, or at the least, narrow down your choices to a few useful ones. Bur, if you and your spouse are not able to handle your divorce outside of mediation, it is strongly advised that you avoid it at all costs. When couples try to work out problems on their own, and it leads to disputes, and it makes mediation more complicated and time-consuming.